Wow, you should see all the notes I took while reading this book! This is going to be a long post!
I wasn't sure if I was a "good girl" or not... I know I need grace... so I asked for this book for Christmas.
Where to begin?

First off, I'm totally a "good girl." Not in every situation she mentioned... but many.
*She had me when she said "I desperately want to manage your opinion of me."
*I gulped hard when she talked about hiding from dreams... "to face them is to admit they are there, to admit they are there means you are not living them... that means failure" I don't do failure.
*Conviction hit when she said "The innate desire to be good protect me... but it didn't bring me any greater understand of God"
*An eye opener was when she mentioned we praise people who never let on they are suffering. So true... but it that a good thing!??!?! (keep reading, we come back to this)
*I am so Martha... not Mary. Almost every sermon on this pair makes me grit my teeth because I don't get it. Somebody has to make the lunch!!! Loved her take on it!
*Another great story... Mary being told she was going to bear the Messiah. She said I am the Lords servant. A servant... service is an act of faith - it isn't me doing work for God but it is me trusting God to do the work in me. Mary just had to let things happen.
*A key thought... pleasing God or trusting God... I choose to please for various reasons. Trusting feels to passive for me.
*Law/Grace - Grace is not Jesus helping us keep the law... this keeps us focused on the law. Jesus came to fulfill the law so we don't have to look at it any more. Don't listen to the law, listen to Jesus.
*A guilt written across the for head moment. Responsible is good but I simultaneously feel resentful that I am the one to manage it all.
*Yikes - We may call it people pleasing but it is entirely self serving because it really is all about keeping myself comfortable.
*Another story I struggle with... the prodigal son. I can relate to the older brother. She had great thoughts about this.
*Great thoughts on guilt vs shame
*Great question "Are you trying to be who Jesus wants you to be? or do you trust him to bring out who he has already created you to be?"
*Back to the thought above about praising people who never let on they are suffering...In the midst of grief, there is no such thing as strong women of God. There is only brokenness & in desperate need. We are not called to be strong... I want to be strong... not broken and in need."
*Thinking about Moses... he said who am I, God, that I should __________________... God said... I will be with you. Moses asked who, who are you? God says I am.
*Great, great thoughts on worship...loved this!
*If I feel ________ I grab a mask of __________... I completely bypass the spirit within me.
*To recollect truth sometimes we need to re collect truth.
*Closure vs Healing... wow! When there is no healing, there is haunting. To escape haunting we either need to find a mask or a healer.
*Don't fear the future. Choose to anticipate the next great provision.
*Do not compare your pain with others. The worst pain you will ever feel is your own.
*Enjoy the tempo of a God breathed life by letting him set the pace... sick kids, phone calls, broken cars... God is setting the tempo.
These are NOT all my notes:-)
I had notes on three index cards front and back. I put the page number so I can look it up later. I also have a list of 6 books to look up that I may want to add to my wish list.
I am going to go back through some of the topics I marked, but I feel like I got a lot out of the book the first time.
Change... not so easy... control... comes naturally. I'm in it for the long haul. This book really made me think about some of the counseling classes I have taken... you can't go on your feelings... you MUST find truth.
Highly recommended for all my "good girl" friends!